I love how they never lost that connection from many years back. Still miss the fresh prince! (:
Seven Secrets of a Confident Woman
by Joyce Meyer
Secret #1 A confident woman knows that she is loved
The first and most important secret to being a confident woman is to know that you are loved by God unconditionally. Romans 5:8 says, …God shows and clearly proves His [own] love for us by the fact that while we were still sinners, Christ (the Messiah, the Anointed One) died for us. Even if your natural father did not really love you properly, you can still get the love and acceptance you missed in your childhood from God.
Secret #2—A Confident Woman Refuses To Live In Fear
I think you will agree that refusing to be led by our feelings can be a challenge, especially when it comes to fear. But we must remember that fear is not from God. It is the devil’s tool to keep us from enjoying our lives and moving forward with what God has for us. When we attempt to walk in faith, Satan immediately tries to hinder us through many things, including fear. Fear of failure, judgment or criticism will cause us to bury our talents. It will make us draw back and live in misery and torment. Unless we make a firm decision to “fear not,” we will never be free from its power.
Secret #3—A Confident Woman Is Positive
Being negative and being confident do not go together. Like oil and water, they just don’t mix. Being negative opens the door to a lot of problems and disappointments, which fuels the fire for more negativity. Fear is the “dark room” where all your negatives are developed. So why not look at the brighter side of life and believe something good is going to happen to you?
Secret #4—A Confident Woman Recovers From Setbacks
In this life you and I are inevitably going to experience setbacks. The important thing is that we not see them as failures. We are not a failure just because we try something that doesn’t work. It’s only when we stop trying that we fail. The truth is, many people get confused when they’re trying to figure out what they’re supposed to do with their lives. This was definitely true in my life. I discovered my destiny by trial and error.
Secret #5—A Confident Woman Avoids Comparison
It is impossible to walk in confidence and compare ourselves with others at the same time. No matter how good we look or how talented, smart and successful we are, there is always someone who is better than us. I believe that confidence is found in doing the best we can with what we have. God wants us to find joy in being the best we can be, not in competing or comparing ourselves with others.
Secret #6—A Confident Woman Does Not Live In “If Only” And “What If”
One of the worst things you and I can do is to focus on what we don’t have or have lost and fail to take an inventory of what we do have. I call it living in a state of “if only.” Does this sound familiar: “If only I had more education…more money…more opportunity. If only I were taller, shorter, older, younger…” and the list goes on.
Secret #7—A Confident Woman Takes Action
I have heard it said that there are two types of people in the world: those who wait for something to happen and those who make something happen. It’s true that we need to be careful not to get ahead of God, but we also must be mindful not to be lagging behind. I believe we need to step out into things and find out what God has for us. As I said earlier, if we make a mistake it is not the end of the world.
As a believer, Christ lives inside you, and you’ve got what it takes! I believe that as you seek the Lord and apply these seven secrets to your life, you too will begin experiencing the boldness and confidence God desires you to walk in.
I will be going on a mission trip this summer and we as mission trainees are to raise $3500. I told my parents that I would be fundraising and sending out support letters to raise the funds. My grandmother, the most selfless woman of God I know in my life, approached me today.
She really has no money, and the little that she does have, she’ll always use it on me. If I ask her to buy her anything, she’ll ask for the most simple things: socks. She still hasn’t used the whole pack of socks I’ve bought her 6 years back because she wants to cherish it. She only wears it on special occasions, but they’re only just socks. That in itself is precious. She always wants to take me out to eat, and it hurts her when she doesn’t have the money to do so.
Today, she approached me and gave me $200. I don’t even know how she got the money, but I know that she scraped up what she had for me. I told her that it’s okay, I can raise the money, if anything I can put my own money too. But she shook her head and said that it was out of her heart that she wanted to give it to me. This reminded me of the story in the Bible of the woman who gave up 2 coins. 2 coins was all she had as an offering. A rich man gave much money, but he wasn’t truly giving up anything because he’d always have more where that came from. The woman’s heart was so pure, loving, and sacrificial. My grandma is so similar to this woman of God, and I can only hope to be like her.
Today, I experienced something .. that I’ve never really felt like I experienced before. I’ve always felt that I’ve been in the position to forgive someone, but today… I was forgiven in a way that confuses me. I don’t know how to make of the way this person has forgiven me. I don’t feel that I should be forgiven, and I don’t know how to react to it. But as I took the time to think… this act of forgiveness from my brother in Christ has brought me back to the cross. The cross doesn’t make sense. When we think about what Christ has done… it doesn’t make sense. And it shouldn’t make sense. Because we, as humans, as sinners, can never understand fully of what unconditional love is, what unconditional mercy is. God’s forgiveness is incomprehensible .. and I felt that I really saw a glimpse of that today. The way that God forgives us and shows mercy towards us … is his way of showing love to the world. This is how much he loves us, that he would send his one and only son to die on the cross for me, and everyone else, in order that I may be saved.